It’s not easy to find and follow your passion. Actually, it requires all your strength, time, and effort to do it. You have to dig deep down inside you. You have to drill deeper than deep. Yes, go down, deep down into your inmost until you reach the bottom where you can see clearly, and get the answers you need. It’s hard work.
To explain further, many years ago, I read a book. I followed its instructions about fiding my passion. I was doing fine until I got to the part where I have to answer soul searching questions. I started to feel sick in the gut; feeling burning pain there, and all out distressed.
My stomach has turned acidic. The stress from mulling about my answers was too much. I couldn’t handle it. The reason? It was so nerve-racking to realize I actually was clueless and didn’t know what I wanted. I was feeling like this because I was in my late twenties and there I was, lost.
After a while, it hit me. I knew what I wanted when I was 19, but I have grown; and have outgrown my passion. Naturally myneeds were different too. And so are my aspirations. My body’s negative reaction was just an initial response to a sudden, but mistaken idea. Instinct. That was it. Obviously, not properly thought out.
If you are going through the same experience, and stuck, keep on reading. Help is here.
Finding and following your passion takes hard work, and it isn’t for the faint hearted.
You need courage to go for it, despite all the fear, overwhelm, and uncertainty.
While the path may not be the easist, or the most comfortable, I do it because it is the only path that I can see myself taking. It makes me happy, fulfilled, and satisfied.
In this article I’ve compiled some of the questions I ask coaching clients, and anyone who needs help finding and following theirpassion.
It’s like a mini-coaching session. You can use these questions for anything, so they aren’t just for finding and following yourpassion.
Before you read on, grab a pen and a blank sheet of paper and write down the answers to each question, because it will helpyou eliminate some of the overwhelm, uncertainy, and fear.
And always remember, you don’t have to find your passion in order to start taking action. Many people make it into anotherexcuse.
Your passion will find you when it does. In the meanwhile, take action. Refuse to wait.
1. What do you REALLY want?
A basic question but extremely relevant.
I’m not talking about the shoulds or shouldn’ts. Forget about what society, your parents, or your friends say.
What is it that makes you come alive? What truly lights the fire within your soul?
2. What would you want if you didn’t have to be unhappy about not getting it?
I first heard this question from Michael Neil, a world-class coach. At first, it boggled my mind, but as I let it sink, I realized thepower of this simple question.
Take your time with this one, and write down your answer. It boils down to what makes you happy right now, even if you didn’t have to reach some future goal.
3. What’s stopping you?
What is preventing you from finding or following your passion, or going after your dreams?
What have you perceived to be standing in your way up until now?
This is a crucial question, because it sets the tone for the rest of the questions. If you don’t know what is stopping you, then how do you know that there is actually something there?
Even if you know what it is, it’s often not there anyway ;)
4. What specifically is it about that that stops you?
Take your answer from #3, and drill down. If you’re afraid, ask yourself what specifically you’re afraid of.
I was afraid when I started Wake Up Cloud in late 2009 (my first post). More specifically, I was afraid of people not liking what I put out there, and not getting validation for my work.